Perhaps society has had an unhealthy influence on our development that we honestly believe snitches should get stitches regardless of the situation. If your best friend was a victim of a hit and run, you would want the witnesses to come forward. If someone stole your wallet out of your gym locker, you would want someone to fess up. So why have the truth compromised because of some gangsta code, nursery rhyme? If a side chic becomes loose at the gums, go with one, two or all three "B's".
Be objective: What if we look at the side chic as a victim as well? She fell for a guy who told her either he was single or that his relationship was on the rocks. She finds out in the long run that she was suckered and her feelings are legitimately hurt. So out of anger she rats in an attempt to rectify a messed up situation and to expose the jerk that has caused this turmoil. She has some truth that needs to be revealed. This man’s girl needs to know about the man that she loves who has selfishly enjoyed the loving of another girl.
Be hurt: The side chic reveals all the chilling details of a cheating man leaving the gf hurt and confused. Angrily, the girlfriend starts creating all these theories to rationalize why the side chic has come forth. She thinks the side chic is so brutally honest because she probably expects the gf to dump him, leaving him wounded and vulnerable for her to be his crutch back to health; she's probably the one who initiated the affair because she saw a good thing and didn’t care that he had a girl; or maybe she think she deserves him more because she figures she must have what he needs, otherwise, he wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. So she seizes the opportunity to reach out seeming like a concerned sista looking out for another sista. Just curse them both the hell out!!
Be grateful: The truth is out. And the only truth you’re going to get from her is what that man did wrong. You will never really know her thought process nor can you decipher her intentions. She has given you a truth about your bf that only she can provide. You are the appointed trial and the judge to determine if the circumstantial evidence is enough to cause a break up or to be considered just a hurdle in the relationship.
Aight well I did my due diligence in trying to analyze the situation. But the only "B" I find to be conclusive is... that B*TCH is probably a hater… (Hey, I’m human) EYEListen.
When i was married I had plenty of women who offered to be the side chic. Lets call it friends wit benefits.even thought I never indulged I found it alittle desprate that these women would approach me that way. i think the snitching is only relavent when the side chic has been decieved in some way. but most time that's not the case. Lets take Tiger Woods for instance I'm sure all of those mistresses new who he was the moment the met him. Do you really think he said that he was leaving his wife. BS, the were star struck and when the their feeling got involved the desided to rat. None of these women are victims unless they thought he was single other wise I think snitches do get stiches.
ReplyDeleteWe can create at imaginary code and we can claim that the side chic needs to play her position... but the bottom line is, the man is one who will be caught with his pants down. Messing with girls hearts is like playing with fire. Emotions are uncontrollable and if one day the side chic decides she wants more cuz either you sold her a dream or you even jus seemed like you were feeling her more and more, she's liable to get you in mega trouble. A guy can say all day, "she's knows what it is." The only person who doesn't know what it is, is the guy who gets his cover blown... and again, when it comes to a girl and emotions, you never "know what it is."
ReplyDeleteThanks for ya comment!!